Relationships: When Fantasy meets the Real World - DAY 486
The Moment of Shock
Shock, Trauma and Stress (Part Seven)
In the next post and
posts to come – we will continue with the Self Forgiveness Process, focusing on
that initial real purpose for/of relationship, what Negative things were
covered up / suppressed by the Positive things experienced / that was dependent
on the relationship and how this creates MENTAL-RELATIONSHIPS, and what would
REAL PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIPS be if/6as our starting point for relationships was
not based on emotional/feeling energy, but two individuals walking / living as
EQUALS.
This is the cycle we
get caught up in, ‘looking for love’ – love encompassing all the positive feelings
filled into one bowl within our Minds, where all the positive feelings we’re
looking for / searching for from another / in a relationship / sex unites in
our Minds / Bodies for a moment to be able to drive / motivate ourselves to
just not have to look at ourselves, our problems / issues…our own Minds and
what really goes on in there. So, ‘love’
– the search for it / yearning for it and how it preoccupies / possesses our
minds, in fact functions as a distraction…a distraction from ourselves, our own
minds / who we are.
In this post, we’re going to walk a Self Forgiveness process
that will illustrate how the positive feelings/energies of our Consciousness
suppress the negative emotions / issues / problems in ourselves and how we
within this have come to use relationships as ‘cover ups’. Instead of using
relationships to ‘open up’ to ourselves and each other – laying out the problems
/ issues, discuss them and find solutions for oneself and the other. In so
doing, supporting each other to work through the ‘real self’ and expand/develop/grow
within the relationship by enhancing the strengths and strengthening the
weaknesses in oneself, the other and the relationship - instead of devolving
within the relationship where it becomes very superficial – purely based on
playing mental games with feelings / pleasing each other and so relationships
don’t reach any real depth / intimacy or an foundation of trust that will stand
the test of time and challenges within this lifetime.
I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself
to see, realise and understand how relationships
have gone into ‘reverse’ within human civilization – even to the point of
questioning whether “relationships” have ever in fact existed…or only the idea
thereof in people’s Minds. “Reverse” because, instead of relationships being
foundations, strong foundations that are built between individuals in the
relationship/partnership over time with patience and perseverance – most of the
time is spent on pleasing / ‘pushing buttons’ to activate positive feelings and
simulate the imaginations/fantasies. Where this idea exist that ‘if you can Imagine
it / Fantasize it – it will come to pass in Reality’, when the Fantasy of
relationship can be sustained for a while – but eventually falls the more the
individuals spend time in the ‘real world’, facing ‘real challenges’ – most of
which were not entertained in the Fantasies of the relationship in the Mind. And
so why and how – most Relationships fall, even before it has started, the “Reverse
effect” coming into manifestation; because instead of it being a process of
building / accumulation, it becomes a process of slow decline to the eventual
dissimilation of the Relationship.
I forgive
myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and
understand how an Idea of relationships that the Fantasies of the
Mind/Consciousness produce – has swooped across Humanity, every one / most that
have opportunities for relationships attempting to manifest / materialize
Fantasies into physical reality; and despite over and over and over again
proving that a Relationship in the ‘real world’ is not a Fantasy, but an actual
process to walk, an experience that must be created, a creation that must be
built with both putting in equal amount of time and effort – despite this:
every one still attempts to ‘fight against’ the ‘real world of relationships’
to manifest / materialize their Fantasies of Relationships.
In this, I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and
allowed myself to see, realise and understand how we then will move from one
relationship to the other – when the Fantasies in the Mind do not match the
Reality of the Real World, in so doing – blaming self, the other / the relationship
as being the problem. Never questioning, introspecting / investigating this ‘living
in two worlds’ dilemma that is in fact at the heart of the problem, with one
foot standing in the Fantasy of the Mind and the other in the Reality of the
Physical – trying to have ‘best of both worlds’. Not seeing, realising and
understanding how the Fantasies of the Mind / Consciousness cannot align with
the Reality of the Real World, because the Mind / Consciousness is not IN this
real world, but in a ‘world of its own’. This is evidenced by the fact that we
try and ‘get / have / own relationships’ based on how we Fantasized them to be,
never considering the real time, real world challenges and problems of everyday
life, relationships that are walked in the real world. So, every time / most of
the time a challenge comes your way, individually / in relation to the
relationship – it is blamed for interfering with the Fantasy of the
relationship, and so most relationships goes into reactions of blame / anger
and so fighting / conflict and/or giving up entirely; instead of looking at
problems / challenges and having the patience and perseverance to work through
them until a solution is found that is best for all.
I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself
to see, realise and understand how so many come together, each holding their Idea
of relationship as programmed by their Fantasies – and so it becomes a ‘clash
of two worlds’ for each one and the relationship as well, because: individually
– they have one foot in the Fantasy and the other in the Real World and so they
are clashing with the Real World trying to materialize / manifest their
Fantasies on an individual level. Then their Fantasies are also clashing on a
relationship-level in relation to how details differ of what they want for
themselves and each other. So, again – we return to the statement “if you know
the beginning, you know the end”; as the relationship is thwarted with conflict
from the start in the clash / friction between the Fantasy and Real World and
then each other’s Fantasies which eventually leads to the initial conflict
rising where it manifests / materialize the fall of the relationship. Each then
turning around to the next relationship opportunity – only to create the same
process / experience again, because “Creation” is not understood: what you
create is a reflection of who you are – so, if we don’t change, the
relationship experience cannot change.
We will continue in the next post with having a look at this
point regarding IDEAS of relationships created from Fantasies, how this point
is not yet grasped within Human Consciousness and how this leads to the
momentary rise and eventual fall of relationships with not having both feet
firmly rooted within this real world and so building / creating relationships
that are in fact longstanding – standing the test of challenges and time.
