Why do we Give Up BEFORE we Even Started?: DAY 321
Facing Uncertainty
Problem: Fighting
ourselves when Facing Uncertainty
In this Post, we’re going to have a look at the Tendency we
have of, when Facing Uncertainty in approaching something new/novel/different –
we tend to REACT within ourselves in inferiority/self-limitation/self-judgment,
seeing Uncertainty when facing something new/novel/different as a ‘personal
judgment’ towards ourselves and in this, we tend to then ‘immediately Give Up
before we even Started’. Here, we explore WHY we do this to ourselves, and what
is the Solution for ourselves when Facing Uncertainty in doing something
new/novel/different.
Solution:
Here, through Self Forgiveness and Self Commitment Writing –
we’re going to Open up the Problem, and within the Problem – see/realise/find
the Solution to our accepted and allowed consequential relationship of
Uncertainty when Facing ourselves within something new/novel/different:
I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself
to ever Consider or Question, Why and How it is that we always tend to ‘Fight
Ourselves’ or ‘Fight with Ourselves’ to Change or attempt to Change. Why did we
or do we not immediately approach ourselves/change with Understanding/Commonsense and Assist and Support ourselves
into Understanding/Grasping/Changing a point we’re Facing ourselves within? As
we tend to Always REACT first and for most part, in the Reaction to approaching
something new/novel – we give up/give in and/or go into FIGHTING to attempt/try
to FORCE ourselves into and as Change/Learning.
I Commit myself to
assist and support myself to, when and as I am Facing something New/Novel – to
see, realise and understand that: any judgment/fears/anxieties/stress/worry/concern
for what I am about to Face/Approach is bizarre, because: this is the FIRST
TIME I am facing this Point, and Anything else but me being gentle with myself
and allowing myself to UNDERSTAND me in relation to this New/Novel point I am
facing is Self-Sabotage. Because, I am deliberately creating a Negative/Bad in
relation to this something new/novel/different – without me FIRST really
Understanding it and/or me and even APPLYING myself within and as it before
making an Assessment of my relationship to me and this new/different/novel
Point/Experience/Relationship I am facing.
I Forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself
to See, Realise and Understand how I would so readily, immediately without a
moment’s Hesitation – judge myself, and for most part, actually misjudge myself
when and as I am facing Uncertainty in relation to approaching/learning
something new/different/novel. Where, I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted
and allowed myself to see, realise and understand How I have approached
Uncertainty as a judgment, as something bad/wrong and then use my Reaction as
judgment of Uncertainty and take that Personally into and as me, making myself
believe that “uncertainty coming up when facing something new/novel/different
means “I don’t know how to do this and therefore: I can’t do this””.
I commit myself to show, that yes – when facing something
new/novel/different there’s going to be Uncertainty, because yes – one don’t
know how to do it and thus IN THIS MOMENT, one cannot do it. But, that is a
Practical, Real REALITY ASSESSMENT of one’s relationship to facing something
new/novel/different. But, what we have done is Charge Uncertainty and Not
knowing how to do something and thus not being able to do it with JUDGMENT
as Self-Judgment, take it Personal/make it Personal and then we approach
Uncertainty/not knowing how to do something and not being able to do it with a
‘Giving Up’.
Instead of a Practical Reality, Real Contextual Reasoning of: I am facing
something new/novel/different, thus there is Uncertainty because I don’t know
how to do it and thus can’t do it, therefore: I have to teach myself, and Learn
the necessary skills/requirements to be able to know HOW and then to Enable
myself to do it. Instead we go: “There’s Uncertainty, don’t know how to do it, I can’t do it –
therefore: I Give Up”.
I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself
to See, Realise and Understand Why and How it is that we would Reason in such a
way, to talk ourselves into ‘Giving Up’ when we face ourselves within something
new/novel/different with reacting to, within self-judgment, the Point of not
knowing how to do something and thus not being able to do it. Where, in our
Minds – we tend to Reference our EGO,
in terms of Defining ourselves within the things we already CAN do and can do
well and then we define ourselves to the things we already know how to do and
can do, and so: when we face something new/novel/different that we don’t know
how to do or can’t do at that stage: we REACT to it. But, it’s in fact our
Ego/Self-Definition reacting, because we don’t want to feel inferior/less than/
‘wanting to start from the beginning’ when facing something
new/novel/different. Like, we don’t want to go into that humbleness before that
something new/novel/different, understand it, get to know it and ourselves
within it and slowly but surely accumulate the skills and information to be
able to do it.
I commit myself to show, how – when facing something
new/novel/different and our relationship to it, we would rather Preserve our
Ego/Self-Definition of everything that we already Know How to do and Can do and
then ONLY remain/stick to doing JUST THAT, and instead justify/excuse/validate
giving up on ourselves when facing Uncertainty, Judge it, and so Judge
ourselves and in that Self-Judgment
– already prepare the Road before us to ‘Fail’ with using the ‘slippery slope
Reasoning of’ “I don’t know how to do it, so I can’t do it, therefore – I Give
Up”. And so, I commit myself to Assist and Support me – to when and as I face
Uncertainty, not accept and allow myself to Sabotage myself by judging the
uncertainty and so judging myself, to not accept and allow myself to go into
Ego of protecting/defending my already existent self-definitions, but to be
Humble, to stand within the Practical Reality Reasoning and Understanding of “I
don’t know how to do this, as I have not faced this yet within my life, and so
practically I therefore can’t do this. Thus, I have to first get to know how to
do this, practise doing it until I can do it and then from there Assess my
relationship to/as it to see what I can Learn about myself with approaching
this something new/novel/different”.
I commit myself to assist and support myself to no more
accept and allow myself to Define Uncertainty as something ‘bad/negative’, but
actually as an Opportunity for me to Learn something new/novel/different and
within that, Learn something new/novel/different about myself as I assist and
support myself to get to know/understand how to do something, acquire the
Skills to do it and then to Actually do it.
I
forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to See, Realise
and Understand – how and why I would judge something new/novel/different, when
Looking at our Relationship to our Minds/Consciousness, with regards to how
quickly within our Lives we tend to kind of ‘set into’ Definitions of ourselves
and believe that “Okay, this is who I am and will be for this Life and…that’s
it”. In this, pre-setting a Limitation for ourselves that would Sabotage
opportunities for Expansion/Change when facing something new/different/novel,
cause we believe, then, that Change as finding our more about
ourselves/discovering more about ourselves would mean that all those pre-set
Limitations/Definitions would Change/be lost; and so ‘fear of losing our
Definitions/Ego/Limitations’ would sabotage/stop us from
expanding/learning/discovering More about/of ourselves.
I commit myself to show, another Dimension existent with
Facing something New/Novel/Different with regards to how we set-in and pre-set
our Definitions as actual Self-Limitations, in why we would deliberately
Sabotage ourselves within Facing something New/Novel/Different, is: that we’re
actually AFRAID of realising that we’re not as ‘Superior’ in our
Definitions/Ego as we would like to believe ourselves to be. That, with
challenging ourselves in facing/approaching something New/Novel/Different –
this would actually Challenge beliefs/ideas/perceptions about ourselves in/as
our Ego/Personalities/Self-Definition; and so – here again: we’d rather
deliberately Sabotage an opportunity for expansion/growth/development of Self,
than give up on the Limited ideas/perceptions/beliefs we have as the
Personalities/Ego we’ve become in and as the Mind/Consciousness that lead to
such Flawed-Reasoning of “I don’t know how to do it, so I can’t do it,
therefore – I Give Up”.
Self-Reward:
Here, the Self-Reward is existent within the Solution we
have established as-ourselves, that within Uncertainty – we no more accept
and allow ourselves to Sabotage ourselves in ‘giving up on ourselves before
we even Started’, but simply practically utilize Uncertainty as a
reference/indication that self simply, practically, do not YET understand/know
how to do something, and to so acquire the information/skills to be able to do
it and then Apply it. In this, the Self-Reward is transcending self-limitations
imbedded in/as Ego/Self-Definition and actually expand/grow/develop self and
self’s living through Learning new things and so Learning more about oneself
through Challenging oneself in facing new things.
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