Memories as Chains vs. Memories for Self-Change (Part Two):
DAY 462
We often ‘indulge’ in our memories, where this ‘indulgence’
can very quickly transform into imagination where we play memories out / relive
them and/or transform into internal
conversations where we talk to ourselves about the Memories that come up in
the Mind.
When memories themselves come up, when we relive them in our
imagination and when we talk to ourselves about the memories – they are often
accompanied by experiences of emotions / feelings. For most part, as with much
of the constructs in the mind such as thoughts
/ internal conversations / projections / fantasies – we have with memories, not
utilized them practically / effectively enough within our Minds. Meaning:
Instead of using Memories to reflect on who we are / how we are to facilitate
growth/expansion/change
– we have used Memories to ‘relive the Mind’, to ‘relive the experiences they
produce’ and/or have actually used/misused Memories to justify/excuse/validate
certain thoughts/words/deeds that we in fact know was compromising /
self-limiting towards ourselves and our relationship to others.
So, with Memories – it’s like we take them and swirl them
around within our Minds, looping them over and over and over again:
experiencing the same reactions/emotions, having the same discussions, thinking
the same thoughts. Not realising how we’re within this process / relationship
to Memories: actually keeping ourselves in a loop, keeping our own thought
patterns / reactions patterns the same and is one of the reasons why we never
change our habits / patterns in our thoughts, words and
deeds.
So, the question then: how to assist and support oneself to
constructively use one’s memories and relationship to Memories for self-development/growth/expansion
and inevitable change, where we LEARN from ourselves through our Memories –
rather than solidifying personalities / habits / patterns and create the same
consequences / make the same decisions in our lives? See, what is not
seen/realised/understood is: through our participation in memories – when we
think about them / react towards them / speak about them in the same way, what
we’re doing in this process is in fact keeping ‘ourselves the same’. This means:
we’re ‘chaining’ who we are and so how we look at things / make decisions -
to/as our Past/Memories, and so in the present we’ll make the same choices /
decisions which will lead to the same consequences / lead us down the same
paths as we had walked in the past / in the memories.
Whereas: if we reflect / introspect on our
thoughts/words/deeds in Memories – assess/analyse our words / tonalities /
behaviours / choices / decisions and observe their consequences / outflows on
ourselves / towards others – we can more ‘readily’ find problems in how we
think / speak / act and so accordingly change ourselves so that we don’t make
the same mistakes in thought/word/deed.
We contribute to the creation / experience of ourselves and
our lives through our relationship to memories – as long as we keep ourselves
and the relationship to the memories the same: most of how we experience
ourselves and live our lives will be the same. Therefore, in the DIP – one will be introduced to Mind
Constructs, which is a practically structured process one walk through Memories
in the Mind – where one see for oneself how one’s relationship to memories can
be walked in meticulous detail and for oneself see how holding onto memories
and our thoughts/reactions towards them: determine how we make
decisions/choices and so contribute to how we create/experience ourselves, our
lives and relationships within them.
We have also done interviews on EQAFE
that explores memories (Here is the link to the page with all the interviews
done / walked in relation to Memory: MEMORIES -
EQAFE) and how to work with them practically; to discover the resources
that in fact exist within and as our Memories and relationship towards them to
facilitate oneself into/as self change/growth/expansion within oneself, one’s
life and relationships.
