Why do we only Deal with Problems when it’s Too Late?: DAY 496

Planet – Plan-it – Plant (Part Three)

So, we’ll in the next post continue with having a look at the dimension of acceptance, automation and abdication of responsibility when ‘things go wrong’ in our mind-body relationship and our relationship to the world out there – especially why and how it is that we as a collective do not stand together / have evolved to a point where we can adjust our relationships and the systems in the world to unite to PREVENT what’s happening and find sustainable long-term solutions – but rather have gone into this acceptance of ‘things are generally wrong / bad’. We’re going to have a look at how this is one dimension separating us from our rootedness and responsibility to ourselves, each other and the world as a whole – uniting to develop this ecosystem of life on earth to the betterment of all and so ourselves.

If we have a look at our 3 primary realities: the Mind / Consciousness, the Physical Body and our Social Environment / the World System – there is a level of acceptance, automation and abdication of responsibility that exists within all three. In this post, we’re going to explore these 3 dimensions existent within the 3 realities, causing us to not be rooted in our being, body and physical existence within the principle of equality and oneness as what’s best for all; where we as beings, as bodies are not contributing to the ecosystem of the living organism(s) that is here – creating life instead of destroying it.

The Mind / Consciousness in relation to acceptance, automation and abdication of responsibility:

Acceptance:

We have come to ‘accept’ that we think, we react, we imagine and talk to ourselves in our Minds. “This is what it means to be human” we say, “This is how we know we exist” we say – but we’ll only ever question our thoughts and emotions when they lead to something ‘bad’ / ‘consequential’. Even then, we don’t necessarily look at the very existence of thoughts / emotions – but categorize it into a box as a ‘problem of human nature’ and then try and ‘live with it’ (psychology / psychiatry) or find methods / drugs to contain it / suppress it in some way or another (the medical / drug industries). From what we have observed with the human mind, most people in this world have evolved to ‘handle’ their thoughts and emotions better, others cannot and so similar thoughts / emotions would be acted out where the nature of the human mind becomes ‘visible’ in the physical and then becomes a ‘problem’ when they become a threat to themselves and others.

For example, most people have ‘violent thoughts’ – where in a flash of a moment they envision themselves hitting someone when they get angry at them, but it stays in the realms of the Mind. Others, they have ‘violent thoughts’ and act on them – the only difference between people is some can contain their Minds within, others cannot. It’s only when the Mind becomes VISIBLE that it now ‘becomes a problem’…when this should not be so. Just because some manages to keep it in – doesn’t mean that the problem doesn’t exist, it’s just that the problem cannot be seen, but the problem remains: who are we in our relationship to the Mind?

So, we have for a long time in human history only been dealing with the mind or trying to control it, once it spills over into living action. Again, we do the same with ourselves in our own lives – we don’t pay attention to our thoughts and emotions as long as they remain secret / hidden, but the moment they do become visible – it is often too late to really change oneself, one’s relationship to the Mind once it possess you and you embody it in your living action. For example, when looking at depression or having a ‘short temper’ – with the research we have done in our relationship to the thoughts and emotions, these / such conditions develop over TIME due to an accumulation and suppression of thoughts and emotions that eventually build in the mind and body, escalating over time to a point where depressive / anger-related thoughts and emotions eventually takes you over, leading to a mental and physical state / conditioning of a constant experience of depression / having a ‘short temper’.

So, the point here to become aware of is how we ‘Accept’ the Mind – the thoughts and emotions and everything else going on within us, because we’re never taking a moment to step back and really look at / investigate to UNDERSTAND the effects of our thoughts and emotions on our behaviour / self-experience. Very seldom do you really ever reflect on thoughts and emotions, because it’s just become an ‘accepted’ part of self – when all the while it is the very ‘accepted’ thoughts and emotions contributing to who you are, the decisions you make, how you behave, your state of mind, your general self-experience, the nature of your relationships in life, how you experience sex, why your life has been the way it is, why you are who / how you are today – I mean, everything and all that you are, do, say, experience- stems from thoughts and emotions when looking at your relationship to the Mind as a whole.

So, one of the main points when it comes to this dimension of ‘Acceptance’ is existent within the following questions:

Why have we come to ‘Accept’ that conflict between two people has to be thwarted with reactive thoughts, projections and emotions? Why is there not inherent in human nature the stability and commonsense to talk things through as equals and bring disagreements to a solution that’s best for both?

With having a look at the above point, many may answer “because that’s who we are and what we do”, when all the while it’s this very ‘Acceptance dimension’ that’s in fact speaking, because we have the potential to change ourselves, but we’ve been ‘arguing for our own limitations’ because we’ve accepted and so believed that these / such limitations exist that human nature cannot be changed. When, with the processes we’ve walked with Desteni – there are many individuals who have proven in their living application that this can change, the you and another can come together and talk things through as equals into a SOLUTION, with no reactive thoughts, projections and emotions needed…

Here is but ONE example, in the documents to continue I will bring through more examples of things of human nature as the Mind/Consciousness we have just come to ‘accept’ as long as it ‘stays inside the Mind’ and how this essentially brings to question whether we as people ever really properly investigated, researched and understood human consciousness – because as far as I can see, we have only ever tried to control it / contain it when it becomes ‘visible’…as long as it ‘stays out of sight’ in the physical world, we just ‘accept’ it…

We’ll continue more in the next post

From Responding / Reacting to the Mind – to Response-ability / Direction in Reality (Part 2): DAY 478

In the next post, we will continue with how the self expression of comfortability will EMERGE as/while one is walking through nervousness in real-time until one finally transcend nervousness and become the living expression of comfortability – to in this understand how change happens simultaneously with walking a point in the mind and changing oneself within and as it.

Within this, we will also be having a look at how this then change the relationship from reacting / responding to the Mind, to response-ABILITY / self expression within/as/towards reality.

This is why Self Expression is not something that one can think-up or imagine, it is not an idea – ideas, thinking and imagination are all constructs of the Mind Reality and Self Expression one can only access / become / live through actually moving and changing oneself in physical participation.

Have a look:

The initial equation in the relationship was writing/vlogging/speaking = reacting/responding as nervousness. The relationship in the MIND that was created was connecting writing/vlogging/speaking to an emotional reaction of nervousness. Now, this equation is ‘hardwired’ into one’s self-definition, where every time one is confronted with writing/vlogging/speaking – the immediate automatic response/reaction in the Mind is nervousness. To change this relationship would mean that the equation then exists as follows: writing/vlogging/speaking = practical response-ability, which simply means to write, to vlog and to speak and to within that, be comfortable with self in relationship to it. Essentially, all that should exist is self – sitting in front of the video-camera / laptop / audience and speaking / expressing self.

Look, one can for oneself decide what word would assist and support one the best in such instances – whether it be comfortability, or confidence, or stability; one can even assist and support oneself to live ALL the words in such instances. The main point here is how Living Words as Self Expression ensures that one’s relationship to reality remains physical, remains practical and so remains simple to what is here – nothing more / less. Meaning, if we go back to looking at the “writing/vlogging/speaking = reacting/responding as nervousness”-equation: it INTERFERES with your physical self expression, because the nervousness keeps your mind so busy, activating all sorts of thoughts and/or imaginations that your speaking / sharing through the physical body doesn’t flow naturally. One’s SELF expression doesn’t come through in the direct-relationship between self and the writing/vlogging/speaking – instead, one’s Mind Programming comes through, adding an additional ‘mental relationship’ to the simple physical relationship that should exist as self and the writing/vlogging/speaking; and instead changes it to writing/vlogging/speaking + reacting in nervousness + mind busyness. Then, in-between all the reacting and thoughts/imaginations coming up within self, self is trying to speak / write – which makes it very difficult. Whereas, if one become a Living Word that SUPPORTS self in the physical, such as comfortability for example – then that Comfortability becomes a platform, an support as one speak / write, that assist/support one’s speaking/writing to flow and so remain focused and keep the mind quiet within/throughout the process.

To expand the understanding of Living Words and Self Expression, is that: Living Words that become Self Expression – SUPPORTS SELF in the physical with and as the Response-Ability in one’s relationship to reality / the real world. The Mind’s Programming interferes with SELF and one’s relationship / living within and towards the Physical.

Again, having a look at the example above – the nervousness responding / reacting in the Mind, interferes with one writing/vlogging/speaking effectively. Whereas, assisting and supporting self to change the nervousness reaction/response in the MIND to comfortability self expression in the physical as the response-ability to writing/vlogging/speaking (where one has the ability to respond in/with comfortability when writing/vlogging/speaking) – SUPPORTS oneself to speak/write effectively, because SELF comes through directly and is not ‘veiled’ by all sorts of thoughts and reactions.

What is obvious here is how our mind-reaction relationships sabotage / compromise our potential within our direct-relationships to physical reality, doing physical things such as writing / speaking for example and how one is able to change this through changing self from reacting / responding to the Mind, to directing / implementing the ability to respond in one’s world/reality.

In the next post, we’ll continue explaining more on how to SIMULTANEOUSLY change the mind reactions/responses and implementing response-ability / direction in one’s real world/reality by living words through which one’s self expression will emerge.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Five): DAY 474

Here we come to the FINAL step – the Practical Corrective Living, where one in fact APPLY the change in REALITY consistently, until eventually, the self-change is noticeable within oneself and one’s behaviour – which will be the moment where the green water drop, will change entirely to purple. We’ll continue with this process in the next post.

As explained in the previous post – Writing, Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements opens up the POTENTIAL for actual self and living change, for change to become REAL, constant and consistent within self and self’s living. So, let us have a look at the three dimensions again – this time from seeing what it would mean to apply / live change until the change becomes self within and without:

One have to understand that, changing oneself in relation to a point / dimension within the Mind – will be a process, because one had initially automatically lived-out a particular reaction / self-definition and now one has to move out of the automation and at the same time redefine and change oneself. We will show how this works as we walk through each individual dimension we had walked as examples within the posts thus far.

Dimension 1: Word Definitions

Automated Mind Program:

Initially, the moment the words “handsome / beautiful” would come up in the Mind – many images / projections would come up within the Mind, along with emotional reactions that would lead to comparison and self-judgment.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, every time ANY reference of “handsome / beautiful” comes up within self – self deliberately in the moment, immediately REMIND oneself that one is deciding to not participate in such definitions of “handsome / beautiful”, but that one had decided to focus oneself / one’s life on one’s own personal process and not be distracted by such definitions and reactions to words in the MIND. So, instead of ‘following the Mind’ when images / projections come up the moment one see/ hear the words handsome / beautiful – one in real-time, in the moment speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment want to follow my thoughts / projections and the images that came up within me in relation to the words handsome / beautiful. I commit myself to no longer participate in such distractions in my Mind.” Then you breathe in and out and let the point go within yourself and continue focusing on what you were doing in your world.

So, one continue walking this point – changing SELF IN THE MOMENT, from stopping continuing following the mind / participating in the Mind and bring your focus back to yourself, to breath, to the physical and your immediate environment.

Dimension 2: Comparison

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found how comparison activates within one’s Mind, because when one looked at others in real life and/or in magazines / TV / movies – one focused more on their external appearance and how it compares to one’s own external appearance. So, because one’s Mind was preoccupied with external appearance – this became the focus of what one sees in one’s external world, which leads to the activation of comparison in one’s Mind and so also the emotion of jealousy.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, as one is walking around a lot of people, reading magazines and/or watching TV / Movie and one find in a moment a comparison comes up in the Mind: one IMMEDIATELY stop within oneself, speak a quick self forgiveness statement for example: “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to access comparison – wanting to compare my external appearance to that of another. I commit myself to stop this comparison, realising that I decide to not preoccupy myself with external appearances and comparison”. Then, one change oneself in the moment and instead of comparing external appearances – rather see what you can LEARN from another by observing them. Meaning, change how one see others from comparing oneself to them – to seeing who they are as individuals: how they dress / walk and express themselves through words / behaviour. Realising that the person you’re looking at / observing is an INDIVIDUAL that is expressing themselves through words / behaviour / dress. The moment we start comparing – we stop realising that human beings are individuals and instead start seeing them as ‘competition’, instead start using them in our minds to fuel our own issues / problems with comparison and jealousy. So, this is an practical application to consider when working with comparison – to in the moment stop the comparison in the Mind and look / observe the individual for who they are.

Dimension 3: Self Judgement

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found that the moment comparison activates, self-judgment also comes up in the Mind – where one starts bullying oneself in one’s own Mind with the focus of the self-judgment primarily directed to/towards external appearances.

Practical Application Process and Change

So, every time a self-judgment comes up – before you take it any further in the mind and continue participating in it and generating judgmental emotions / experiences: one speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment judge myself. I commit myself to stop this self-judgment as I have decided to stop bullying myself in my own mind and instead work on supporting myself – rather than attacking myself.” Then one breathe in and breathe out – stabilizing oneself in the body, for a moment just being there with you and the body, no mind interference: to start assisting and supporting yourself and the body to develop an equal relationship, where you assist and support the body as the body assists and supports you to live/exist within this world / reality. So, in the moment you stop the self-judgment and stabilize yourself within and with the body – it’s like in this moment you remind yourself to be gentle with yourself, with the body and not attack / bully yourself and the body with the Mind.

Here are some examples of practical application and self change in the moment. Obviously, there are many different ways to approach a point in the Mind with using the tools of forgiveness, commitments and breath in real-time – but what I wanted to show here is how one change IN THE MOMENT.

So, with each practical application process – where one CHANGE IN THE MOMENT, one will find with remaining consistent in one’s application, the thoughts / reactions will start becoming less and less intense. Until eventually, the thoughts / reactions will come up ever so slightly and will be really easy to simply breathe and stabilize oneself within. This is because, if one would have continued participating in the mind in the dimensions of the words, comparisons and self-judgment – it keeps on generating the necessary energy / emotions for the Mind to keep such programs / dimensions / reactions in the Mind “alive”. So, if you start stopping participation and not follow the mind, but instead change and stabilize yourself – the mind’s points has less and less energy / fuel to charge the programs / reactions, because you are stabilizing YOURSELF in the PHYSICAL, instead of charging up the Mind.

We’ll in posts to come explain this change from Mind participation to Physical stability, specifically focusing on why it is not enough to simply just ‘stop thoughts / emotions’ and just breathe / stabilize oneself – but one has to have SPECIFIC self-change applications in relation to the mind’s programs / reactions.