Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Five): DAY 474

Here we come to the FINAL step – the Practical Corrective Living, where one in fact APPLY the change in REALITY consistently, until eventually, the self-change is noticeable within oneself and one’s behaviour – which will be the moment where the green water drop, will change entirely to purple. We’ll continue with this process in the next post.

As explained in the previous post – Writing, Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements opens up the POTENTIAL for actual self and living change, for change to become REAL, constant and consistent within self and self’s living. So, let us have a look at the three dimensions again – this time from seeing what it would mean to apply / live change until the change becomes self within and without:

One have to understand that, changing oneself in relation to a point / dimension within the Mind – will be a process, because one had initially automatically lived-out a particular reaction / self-definition and now one has to move out of the automation and at the same time redefine and change oneself. We will show how this works as we walk through each individual dimension we had walked as examples within the posts thus far.

Dimension 1: Word Definitions

Automated Mind Program:

Initially, the moment the words “handsome / beautiful” would come up in the Mind – many images / projections would come up within the Mind, along with emotional reactions that would lead to comparison and self-judgment.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, every time ANY reference of “handsome / beautiful” comes up within self – self deliberately in the moment, immediately REMIND oneself that one is deciding to not participate in such definitions of “handsome / beautiful”, but that one had decided to focus oneself / one’s life on one’s own personal process and not be distracted by such definitions and reactions to words in the MIND. So, instead of ‘following the Mind’ when images / projections come up the moment one see/ hear the words handsome / beautiful – one in real-time, in the moment speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment want to follow my thoughts / projections and the images that came up within me in relation to the words handsome / beautiful. I commit myself to no longer participate in such distractions in my Mind.” Then you breathe in and out and let the point go within yourself and continue focusing on what you were doing in your world.

So, one continue walking this point – changing SELF IN THE MOMENT, from stopping continuing following the mind / participating in the Mind and bring your focus back to yourself, to breath, to the physical and your immediate environment.

Dimension 2: Comparison

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found how comparison activates within one’s Mind, because when one looked at others in real life and/or in magazines / TV / movies – one focused more on their external appearance and how it compares to one’s own external appearance. So, because one’s Mind was preoccupied with external appearance – this became the focus of what one sees in one’s external world, which leads to the activation of comparison in one’s Mind and so also the emotion of jealousy.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, as one is walking around a lot of people, reading magazines and/or watching TV / Movie and one find in a moment a comparison comes up in the Mind: one IMMEDIATELY stop within oneself, speak a quick self forgiveness statement for example: “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to access comparison – wanting to compare my external appearance to that of another. I commit myself to stop this comparison, realising that I decide to not preoccupy myself with external appearances and comparison”. Then, one change oneself in the moment and instead of comparing external appearances – rather see what you can LEARN from another by observing them. Meaning, change how one see others from comparing oneself to them – to seeing who they are as individuals: how they dress / walk and express themselves through words / behaviour. Realising that the person you’re looking at / observing is an INDIVIDUAL that is expressing themselves through words / behaviour / dress. The moment we start comparing – we stop realising that human beings are individuals and instead start seeing them as ‘competition’, instead start using them in our minds to fuel our own issues / problems with comparison and jealousy. So, this is an practical application to consider when working with comparison – to in the moment stop the comparison in the Mind and look / observe the individual for who they are.

Dimension 3: Self Judgement

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found that the moment comparison activates, self-judgment also comes up in the Mind – where one starts bullying oneself in one’s own Mind with the focus of the self-judgment primarily directed to/towards external appearances.

Practical Application Process and Change

So, every time a self-judgment comes up – before you take it any further in the mind and continue participating in it and generating judgmental emotions / experiences: one speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment judge myself. I commit myself to stop this self-judgment as I have decided to stop bullying myself in my own mind and instead work on supporting myself – rather than attacking myself.” Then one breathe in and breathe out – stabilizing oneself in the body, for a moment just being there with you and the body, no mind interference: to start assisting and supporting yourself and the body to develop an equal relationship, where you assist and support the body as the body assists and supports you to live/exist within this world / reality. So, in the moment you stop the self-judgment and stabilize yourself within and with the body – it’s like in this moment you remind yourself to be gentle with yourself, with the body and not attack / bully yourself and the body with the Mind.

Here are some examples of practical application and self change in the moment. Obviously, there are many different ways to approach a point in the Mind with using the tools of forgiveness, commitments and breath in real-time – but what I wanted to show here is how one change IN THE MOMENT.

So, with each practical application process – where one CHANGE IN THE MOMENT, one will find with remaining consistent in one’s application, the thoughts / reactions will start becoming less and less intense. Until eventually, the thoughts / reactions will come up ever so slightly and will be really easy to simply breathe and stabilize oneself within. This is because, if one would have continued participating in the mind in the dimensions of the words, comparisons and self-judgment – it keeps on generating the necessary energy / emotions for the Mind to keep such programs / dimensions / reactions in the Mind “alive”. So, if you start stopping participation and not follow the mind, but instead change and stabilize yourself – the mind’s points has less and less energy / fuel to charge the programs / reactions, because you are stabilizing YOURSELF in the PHYSICAL, instead of charging up the Mind.

We’ll in posts to come explain this change from Mind participation to Physical stability, specifically focusing on why it is not enough to simply just ‘stop thoughts / emotions’ and just breathe / stabilize oneself – but one has to have SPECIFIC self-change applications in relation to the mind’s programs / reactions.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Four): DAY 473

In the next post we’ll continue with the Self Judgment Dimension and then the Final Point of what it means to take the writing and self forgiveness / commitment process into actual real change for the green water drop as the backchat and emotion to change into actual Self Aware Living.

Dimension 3: Self Judgment

Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements

(To walk the Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements – one reference the introspective / investigative writing one initially do when one open up backchats / emotions, which is what we did in the previous post. Here are but a few examples of Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements :)

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand the extent to which I compromised ME within my OWN MIND with accepting and allowing comparison as it spiralled out of control to the point where I was in fact busy comparing myself to not only photos in my Mind where it initially started – but to now where my eyes start wandering to other human beings. In this, I would start comparing my appearance / physique to them and even go to the point of judging myself – with the judgment only perpetuating the idea/belief/perception that I do not meet the ‘standards’ of the definition of the word beautiful / handsome.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand what I am in fact doing to MYSELF in my OWN MIND with accepting and allowing self-judgment as I turned me against myself – my own worst enemy, with initially buying into the definitions of handsome / beautiful, then judging me as not meeting such standards and in that self-judgment – making this the PRIMARY relationship to myself in my Mind and my Relationship to others: as me being less than / inferior to others who apparently meet the standards of what beautiful / handsome is.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand how I have through Self-Judgment – accepted and allowed an attacking relationship towards myself, my own body: instead of an assisting and supporting relationship towards myself and my body. Where, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in self-judgment, abuse myself and my body because of accepting and allowing myself to define me and my body by other’s standards and definitions – instead of me standing by my own integrity, respect, consideration and regard of me and my body.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that – as long as I accept and allow the starting point of handsome / beautiful definitions as per the world’s standards: I will always enslave myself to the world, to such superficial and limited definitions and in that self-enslavement – only compromise me and my body.

I commit myself to assist and support myself to when and as I in a moment find that I start comparing in my Mind and that comparison leads to self-judgment: I stop, I breathe and speak a quick self forgiveness statement silently within myself such as “I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to in this moment access comparison to/towards that someone and from the comparison judge myself for this/that” (Obviously, here – to consider the self-forgiveness statement must be as specific and contextual to the moment as possible). Then, to speak a commitment statement silently within myself such as “I commit myself to be here with me and only me in/as breath and focus one where I am and what I am doing”. By doing this – I that moment shift myself out of the tendency to compare and judge in the Mind, and bring myself back to me, to reality to HERE.

I commit myself to change the relationship to myself from attacking / belittling myself through self-judgments in my own Mind – to assisting and supporting me with self forgiveness and commitment statements and an immediate decision of change in a moment.

I commit myself to see, realise and understand who I am and how I experience myself is in my own hands. I no more accept / allow myself to sabotage and compromise myself with comparison and self judgment, but instead assist and support myself to strengthen, expand and grow within who I am and in this lifetime so that I can create a me and a life worth living, rather than one where I slowly but surely lose myself and destroy myself through comparison and judgment.

Alright, here one now have examples of the Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Commitment process. (I suggest, for those that are new to this process – to join the Desteni I Process LITE that introduce you step by step, together with the help of a buddy, how to Write, Apply Self Forgiveness and stand within Self Commitment Statements.)

However, this process of Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Commitment Statements only ever so slightly starts changing the green water drop (with the backchat, emotion and ALL other dimensions that was part of it) into and as purple, as our Awareness has now permeated into/as the green water drop, has now permeated into seeing all the dimensions and the POTENTIAL for self-change. So, with the Writing, Forgiveness and Commitment Process – one in fact create the POTENTIAL for change, for the green water drop to COMPLETELY change into and as purple, as the process where we, ourselves, in fact change completely from the backchat/emotions and all dimensions involved.

Here we come to the FINAL step – the Practical Corrective Living, where one in fact APPLY the change in REALITY consistently, until eventually, the self-change is noticeable within oneself and one’s behaviour – which will be the moment where the green water drop, will change entirely to purple. We’ll continue with this process in the next post.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Three): DAY 472

So, in the next post – I will continue with how self forgiveness, commitment statements and actual practical living change: change oneself / a part of self as used in this example where one redefine the words Handsome / Beautiful for oneself, change how one approach the words, no more limit the definition of the words to only photos / fantasies etc. and so how the green drop will then change/transform into/as a purple drop; which means: how the parts of oneself in the Mind/Consciousness will change into realisations that will assist/support one in oneself and one’s life/living experience.

We illustrated in the previous posts the example of the purple water drop (our Awareness) that is in the process of investigating / introspecting a part of itself / a part of ourselves as the green water drop that consisted of the backchat “I’m never going to be as beautiful / handsome as her / him” and the emotion of jealousy. In the previous post, we opened but three dimensions of what one can see/realise/understand is existent within/beyond the backchat / emotion one experience in the conscious / subconscious mind. The examples of the three dimensions we walked in the previous post were: how one defined words in the mind, comparison and self-judgment and how these three dimensions – contributed to creating / perpetuating the backchat and emotion.

In this post, we’re going to see exactly how we, as our awareness, change who/how/what we are in and as the backchats and/or emotions as parts of ourselves in/as the Mind and how this Change will be brought through into actual practical living. This essentially where our ‘Awareness’ is going to discover a ‘new expression / part’ of itself in the backchat / emotion as the green water drop will eventually change into/as becoming a purple water drop. So, let’s see how this process will be walked:

Now that we have established three dimensions that was within/behind the backchat / emotion – one walk a process of writing, self-forgiveness and commitment statements as the process of preparing oneself to implement actual change in one’s life/living experience in one’s day-to-day participation in this world. This is the process where one change and take responsibility for the parts of oneself in and as the backchat and emotion, as well as the dimensions within and behind them that compromised who one is and how one live. Let’s have a look at how this is done:

Dimension 1: Word Definitions

Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements

(To walk the Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements – one reference the introspective / investigative writing one initially do when one open up backchats / emotions, which is what we did in the previous post. Here are but a few examples of Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements :)

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand how I have connected photos / fantasies / movie scenes and magazines in and as my definition of the word(s) handsome and/or beautiful. I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that this is not in fact MY definition – but a definition/definitions that I have copied / imitated from others/the world around me that I have come to accept and allow to become ‘my definition’. Where the proof of it not, in fact, being ‘my definition’ is within the fact that I have never actually self honestly, with self awareness, DECIDED what the words mean for me / to me and actually looked at the words and how they can assist/support me in my life/living experience – instead, the words are no more ‘my definition’, the words now belong to the photos / fantasies / movie scenes and magazines that defines them.

I commit myself to assist and support myself to for the first time, redefine the words handsome and/or beautiful for me, where I sit with myself and decide who I am and how I am going to live the words in a way that assist and support me – instead of compromising me by giving into the accepted and allowed definition of the words handsome and beautiful to only be limited to photos / fantasies / movie scenes and magazines that simply emphasizes the superficial nature of the minds of human beings that have no depth / integrity to words and their definitions.

I commit myself to see/realise and understand how the words handsome and beautiful has become word-creations from a unified acceptance and allowance of highlighting only certain characteristics/external appearances that a select few human beings had decided to manifest into and as the creation of the words handsome and beautiful; and from here utilized this as the platform from which industries / corporations benefit monetarily through using / abusing the creation / existence of such words – to the compromise of so many human beings’ minds, selves and bodies.

With this, I commit myself to no more define me and so limit me to such words and their definitions that only tie my Mind to the World System / Money System that would benefit through me indulging in / accepting and allowing such words and their definitions within me and my life. I commit myself to focus my attention / living on who I am within and without – to create ME and my living into an expression that tells my story and how I contribute to life/living in this world, rather than contributing to the very system that is compromising life/living in this world as the World System/Money System through accepting and allowing myself to entertain such words and their limited / superficial definitions.

Dimension 2: Comparison  

(To walk the Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements – one reference the introspective / investigative writing one initially do when one open up backchats / emotions, which is what we did in the previous post. Here are but a few examples of Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements :)

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand the extent to which I was comparing myself, my body / external appearance to photos / memories / fantasies of what the world / the system has come to define as the words beautiful and/or handsome. Not seeing, realising and understanding how in this comparison – I have accepted and allowed myself to fall into the trap of inadvertently also accepting and allowing the definitions of handsome and/or beautiful to belong to the photos / movie scenes / videos as portrayed within the world / the system. And with me accepting/allowing such definitions of beautiful and/or handsome as being ‘THE ONE AND ONLY’ definition and with comparison – me not matching this definition: I reacted in jealousy for me not ‘fitting into’ the definition of beautiful and/or handsome as per the world / the systems’ standards.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand the type of person such comparison and jealousy has made me within my Mind – my relationships towards myself and others, where I had become so preoccupied with comparison and jealousy that I didn’t even realise to what extent I have lost myself within it all, within this possession of/as the accepted and allowed definitions of the words beautiful and/or handsome.

I commit myself to assist and support myself to stop this possessive nature of comparison and jealousy within myself and towards others that I have accepted and allowed to create in MY OWN MIND with accepting and allowing the definitions of handsome / beautiful to only be limited to that of images / memories / fantasies / movie scenes / videos etc. of but a few superficial characteristics that determine beauty / handsomeness based on external physical appearance.

I commit myself to – when and as I find that I am busy with comparison in my Mind, comparing me to others based on external physical appearance and the emotion of jealousy starts activating: I stop and breathe, make a decision in that moment to stop and not continue participating, because I see, realise and understand that if I do – I am just again falling into the trap of preoccupying me with limited and superficial things in this world/reality and that I am rather committing myself to discover me, learn about myself, expand/grow within who I am and so start focusing more on REAL things, things that MATTER – which is me, process and what I am going to be, become and do within this lifetime.

I commit myself to – when and as I find that I’m starting to participate in the comparison and jealousy, to remind myself that this is surely a waste of time and physical energy, because I am only going to be rattling myself up emotionally to the benefit of the system / money if/as I take this further and try and manipulate myself / my body just for looks to assuage the reactions I create about it in my own Mind – within which the system / money system will benefit with the time and money I will spend in/as this possession. Instead, I direct the focus / time / physical energy on myself – to get to work on me, who I am within my life/living experience to contribute to self change and world change rather than perpetuate the consequence created by the beauty industries of this world/reality.

In the next post we’ll continue with the Self Judgment Dimension and then the Final Point of what it means to take the writing and self forgiveness / commitment process into actual real change for the green water drop as the backchat and emotion to change into actual Self Aware Living.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Two): DAY 471

In this post, we’re continuing from seeing the Bowl with all the blue water drops – with each individual blue water drop representing a thought / backchat / emotion / feeling from the conscious / subconscious mind.

(To note here: backchats and emotions only form part of the conscious / subconscious mind dimensions of the Mind Consciousness System. I’ve only used the basics as examples to show the process we walk in relation to the Mind/Consciousness, where one’s process starts within the Conscious / Subconscious Mind. There is in fact more, MUCH MORE to the Mind: the unconscious, quantum mind and quantum physical that are the more complex systems of the entire Mind Consciousness System. One can learn more about the conscious, subconscious and unconscious Mind in Self Awareness Steps of the Elite and learn more about the Quantum Mind in Quantum Mind Self Awareness available on EQAFE.)

Then, within this Bowl – seeing the green water drop and purple water drop emphasized and connected with a thin blue strand. This representing the relationship between the backchat and emotion and our awareness – where the backchat / emotion as the green water drop is still a ‘part of us’ that our awareness as the purple water drop is now in the process of changing / transforming with walking the process of Writing, Self Forgiveness and Commitment into actual Self Corrective Living.

Now, for a moment – Imagine seeing the green water drop and purple water drop only – connected with a thin blue thread. This is the moment where one’s Awareness (purple water drop) now takes a step back from the backchat/emotion (green water drop) that activated in the Mind in the moment of seeing the photograph. The green water drop is filled with the backchat of “I’m never going to be as beautiful / handsome as her / him” together with the emotion of, let’s say jealousy. Now, with one’s Awareness and Self Honesty – one starts writing and looking deeper into the backchat and emotion to establish why and how it activated, where did it come from, why does it exist within oneself/the Mind. As one’s Awareness starts looking deeper into the green water drop – one’s awareness starts seeing that there is MUCH MORE within and beyond the backchat and emotion going on. One finds, for example, various dimensions as one goes deeper into and beyond the backchat / emotion / deeper into the green water drop – such as:

Word Definitions:

You start realising that there is a ‘problem’ within the words “handsome” and “beautiful” as they are defined in the Mind. Where, at the moment – when such words are spoken / they come up in your world: Immediately photos/fantasies come up with regards to how one accepted and allowed oneself to define the words “beautiful” and/or “handsome”. Furthermore, one found the definition of the words “beautiful” and/or “handsome” to be ONLY related to external physical appearance of people. That, one had in one’s Mind accepted and allowed the definition of “beautiful” and/or “handsome” to consist of what the world defines as “beautiful / handsome” and in comparison to others one in one’s Mind, did not meet such standards.

Comparison:

The more you investigated and looked into the point; you may find that you’ve been comparing your external physical appearance to photos/fantasies in your Mind that you accumulated from your external environment. And the more you started comparing yourself to the photos/fantasies in your Mind – the more the emotion of jealousy came up within you. Projecting the jealousy towards those that the world define to be “beautiful” / “handsome”, because in your eyes – your body / external appearance can never look like the “beauty / handsomeness” as portrayed in the photos, for example.

Self Judgment:

As you dig deeper into the point, you may also find, for example how extensively you’ve been comparing yourself to others – as you started becoming aware of your thoughts / backchats and emotions more, you realise you’re doing it more than you were initially conscious of. That, it was not only in that one instance with the photograph – your Mind is most of the time, in some way or another, comparing your physical appearance to that of others within the context of the definition of the words “handsome” / “beautiful”. The outflow of this, is that you find that you often judge yourself, your appearance and your body.

So, here are but three dimensions as examples of what can open up within oneself in relation to what is accepted and allowed in the Mind with entertaining something as simple as backchat and an emotional reaction. What I want to show here, specifically, is that: there is much more to backchat and emotion than meets the eye. There’s actually so much more going on within / behind the thoughts and emotions/reactions and even feelings that we experience in the Mind and the Body.

So, in the next post – I will continue with how self forgiveness, commitment statements and actual practical living change: change oneself / a part of self as used in this example where one redefine the words Handsome / Beautiful for oneself, change how one approach the words, no more limit the definition of the words to only photos / fantasies etc. and so how the green drop will then change/transform into/as a purple drop; which means: how the parts of oneself in the Mind/Consciousness will change into realisations that will assist/support one in oneself and one’s life/living experience.