When the promise of Relationship activates instant Metamorphosis: DAY 431

In the recent Relationship Success Support interview (will be available on EQAFE this Sunday/next Wednesday) – an interesting point opened up with regards to how we would (and the extent to which we would) ‘change ourselves for Relationship’ / the prospect of Relationship.

One of the first points mentioned is how, within the media/magazines for example you get the “what to do/wear and what not to do/wear for the first date”, or “what put men off from women and what put women off from men”, or “what are women looking for in a man and what is a man looking for in a woman”. It’s interesting here that some people take such things as ABSOLUTES, like these are the views held by ALL women or by ALL men…when, this is not in fact so. I mean, the lists weren’t made by asking all the billions of people available out there / in relationships already. However, some take it as absolutes and follow such lists as Religion – changing themselves DRASTICALLY just to secure a relationship, but never realising that the real you is eventually going to show/come out. Just changing yourself for the beginning stages of the relationship is Not going to change ALL of you…and then people wonder why relationships don’t work out….

Then, another fascinating point that many may be able to relate to was opened up with asking the question “Why do we Fear ‘being comfortable with who we are/in our own skin’ – essentially showing the prospective partner “this is who I am”, but instead CHANGE and HIDE a lot about ourselves when it initially comes to the relationship”? So, a dimension opened up here – showing how: when you’re in school and you see the boys/girls starting relationships and you don’t, and then start comparing you to those that ARE in relationships and then wonder “what is wrong with ME that I’m not in a relationship/someone isn’t interested in me!” When, the following commonsensical points are not considered: you’re in a SCHOOL with a limited amount of people, thus, certain people are during that time more in alignment with others that are already in the school – the person that you may during that time have been more aligned with was not in your school. And then we as teenagers take that context within/during school and think “there’s something wrong with us because WE weren’t in earlier relationships” when it had NOTHING to do with oneself per say, but that you were in a school with a limited amount of people. And people STILL live with those memories and let such memories define them, and now change themselves for relationships because they believe who/how they are isn’t enough, because it apparently wasn’t enough when they were in school.

The interview explores this process of why/how we change for relationships, why/how we become so self-conscious when it comes to relationships and why we don’t allow ourselves to just be comfortable with ourselves – already from the get-go being able to say/show to the person “this is who/how I am – do you want to share this time/our lives together?” – you know, that you already from the get-go know where you stand with you/who you are…how would the experience of the relationship change then?

We’d within this also suggest investigating the ‘Relationship to Agreement’ Course available in Desteni I Process – assisting and supporting with how to establish a relationship to self and so with another where you know where you stand with you/each other and can walk together as EQUALS and learn from each other and grow, instead of compromising oneself for relationships that only lead to self-consequence / consequential relationship.

We know how we See through our Physical Eyes, but how do we See in the Mind? DAY 430

In one of the recent Reptilian Interviews “Questioning the Third Eye” – an interesting relationship is questioned with regards to, for example having a look at when we’re ‘daydreaming’ / ‘thinking about things’.

So, when you’re daydreaming – wondering about relationships/sex/money/the future/holidays and/or when you’re thinking – looking at the day, what to do/how to do it/when to do it/the people involved and all those things: have you noticed that you in that moment can SEE two worlds at the same time? Like, while you’re daydreaming / thinking about things – lol, it’s not like the external world shuts down so that we only see the internal world and also vice versa where the internal world shuts down so that we can only see the external world…while we’re daydreaming/thinking: we can see both worlds at the same time.

This is the point the interview focuses on, questioning the following points: HOW exactly can we see inside our Minds? We don’t have ‘eyes’ in the Mind or organs in the brain that can be dissected and investigated to understand how exactly we see inside our Minds. We have physical eyes – E-Y-E and we have a mind I’s, because the question asked as well is “WHO/what is the one/thing in the Mind that SEES?” We know with physical-seeing, it is in fact the physical body that makes it possible to see – but, how does the mechanics/processes of seeing in fact operate/function in our Minds?

If you note, I also earlier mentioned that we have mind I’s…plural. If you have a look at all the different things you daydream about or think about, you will notice that you ‘become a different person’ inside yourself in terms of how you change how you ‘feel’ – you can one moment daydream about a future relationship and be all positive, then the next moment think about your current relationship and be all negative, like two different I’s / ‘sides’ of yourself being exposed. So, who/what are all the different I’s that occupy the Mind that can ‘see’ in two worlds at once?

I would suggest investing in this interview and interviews to follow to understand HOW we see in the Mind, to understand WHAT/WHO is it that in fact sees and WHY we can create emotional-relationships to what we see/how we see things in the Mind; and within this all, most importantly: how we have come to be able to exist in two-worlds where we spend very little time in the REAL PHYSIAL WORLD and more time in the mental/consciousness world.

Self MASTery: Self/Awareness as the MAST of the Self-Physical relationSHIP: DAY 364

Mastering the Self creates a split personality - as the Self and the one that Masters ‘the Self’

Here we’re having a look at the approach to Self Mastery as it now exist, and why we say that “Self Mastery” can create a split personality. If one approach Self Mastery within the starting point of ‘Mastering the Self’ – then, commonsensically, you need to split yourself because you then have a ‘self’ and then you have a part of you that is in the process of ‘mastering that Self’. For a ‘master’ to exist, a ‘slave must exist’ as a Master-Slave relationship. So, in this split of having a ‘self that has to be mastered’ and another self that is mastering that self that has to be mastered – the Self mastering the other Self becomes the “Master” and the other Self the Slave that must abide by the laws, rules and regulations of becoming ‘mastered’. So, one can for the rest of one’s life exist in a Master-Slave relationship in your own Mind.

Therefore, with regards to Self Mastery – ensure that one tend to, with awareness, the relationship to words and their definition, to within and as the process of Self Change – not create separation and split-personalities. Thus, for example within Desteni – we have a look at Self-Mastery as follows:

Not in the context of “Mastering the Self” / “Mastering a Self” – that would be strange, wanting to ‘Master your SELF’ / ‘have Mastery over/of the Self’. So, Self Change is a process within which ‘the self is changing’, self is changing, self is the ONE changing. Here does not exist separation/split-personality creation. Thus, I would say that ‘Self Mastery’ comes from the fact that we’ve accepted and allowed ourselves to be slaves to our own Minds, our own Consciousness such as thoughts and emotions, being controlled by them and now with Self Mastery, we attempt/try to become the ‘Master’ of our own selves/minds. When this is not in fact what the relationship should be like, because then Self Mastery is more a REACTION to the fact that we have been outmastered by our own Minds/Consciousness and changing self with such a Starting Point, would always then keep in memory, that initial relationship and so we create a competition with our own Minds – “who’s going to be the master of me / my mind / self ‘- consciousness or me”.

A proposed redefinition to consider is looking at the word MASTER / mastering – MAST, being the mast of a ship, thus, redefining Mastering to you, to self being the mast, the directive principle, the AWARENESS within oneself within and as thought, word and deed – CHANGING the relationship from consciousness being the master/centralized Control, to self standing as the Mast, the Direction, the Awareness in/as one’s Living in thought, word and deed – centralizing one’s Awareness in/as oneself and the body. This is then actual CHANGE and does not create a polarity of/as competition between two masters – having two masters in the Mind….not a good Idea. Thus, it’s to be the MAST, the DIRECTION, the Directive principle of/as ‘Who I am’ in/as thought, word and deed as AWARENESS. To be/become this – is and will be a Process, because Consciousness has always been the MAST, the direction, the Control of/as the Ship, the relationSHIP with and as ourselves and the physical body. And so will be a process of changing the relationSHIP from mind controls to Self Directive Principle – not creating a polarity of ‘who’s the master’, but in fact establishing a STAND of whether Self’s Awareness is going to be the One that stand in/as the Physical Body, or the Mind Pirate taking over the Ship, the relationships between SELF and the PHYSICAL.

We suggest investigating Desteni, the Desteni I process – where we’re in the process of establishing ourselves, our AWARENESS as the Mast of the Ship of the relationSHIP between Self and the Physical, to no more be controlled by the Pirate / Pirates of Consciousness on our way to the Treasure that is LIFE, that Consciousness for too long have Suppressed.

We will in the next interview-post have a look at this analogy of the Captain of the Ship as the relationSHIP between/as Self and the Physical – with seeing, realising and Understanding that the process is changing/transforming self as Consciousness, into and as Self as Awareness.