The Physical-Motion and E(energy/mind)-Motion of Process (Part 2): DAY 476

We’ll continue more in the next post with how to practically assist and support oneself when missing point in one’s real-time application. Also, how – even though, when missing points, the points do become more intense / overwhelming: it is in fact a ‘gift in disguise’.

Firstly, we’re going to have a look at why and how it is that a point in the Mind will become more intense / overwhelming when one do not direct oneself in a moment in relation to a pattern / reaction (as we walked the illustration-example with the small-ball’s door that will close and will become bigger, so that the next time a same /similar hole appears – the reactions/thoughts will be more intense / overwhelming).

Now, with the huge ball rolling into the hole – how we want to walk process is: before the huge ball rolls into the hole, it can ‘see it coming’ and with already having preventative measures prepared – rolls around the hole and/or speeds up a bit to jump the hole and/or move through it more graciously than getting stuck in it.

Having a look at this within one’s process: as one see a conflict emerging between oneself and another, one already want to start applying prepared preventative measures, speaking forgiveness and commitment statements, stabilizing oneself within the body, keeping the mind quiet; so that one can direct the moment in reality instead of react towards it within one’s Mind. The same within one’s own Mind – when/as you see a point of conflict coming up in the Mind where one would usually follow the thought pattern and generate emotional / feeling reactions: one ‘see it coming’ and before the thoughts/reactions go out of control within oneself – one direct oneself with self forgiveness, commitment statements and self corrective living to instead change. (For the basics in terms of how to walk and apply self forgiveness, commitment statements and self corrective living in writing and living – we suggest investing in the Self Awareness Steps for the Elite Series where it’s explained in detail.)

When one miss a point in the Mind that activates when facing a challenge in reality / in relationship to another human being: one have the opportunity to ‘discharge’ the point in the Mind through changing oneself in relationship to it (walking forgiveness, commitments, corrective application) OR the point will ‘recharge’ itself when it returns back into the same position within the Mind, which means one’s position / relationship to the point in the Mind will not change.

What I mean with ‘discharge’ and ‘charge’ is the following: all points in the Mind (‘points’ being thought / reaction patterns and/or personalities) consist of ENERGY as its primary substance. The Mind Consciousness System and everything that it consists of / exists as – is substantiated with emotional / feeling / physical energy. So, when one face a thought / reaction pattern in the Mind (when in conflict with another, for example) one will, for example, have thoughts of blame and reactions of anger. Now, when/as one face oneself in the mind in such a way and CHANGE oneself in the moment – forgive the thoughts and reactions and instead remain stable and communicate with commonsense to solve the moment / relationship with the other: what happens with this moment of CHANGE is that one change one’s position / relationship to the thought / reaction pattern. In that change, instead of recharging the thoughts/reactions by participating in them / becoming possessed by them: one stand by oneself, one’s awareness and practical change in physical reality. Thus, the moment of  change ‘discharges’ the ENERGY that one would have given to the thought / reaction pattern in the mind, because instead of giving it / charging it with energy by one’s participation / possession – one stabilized into the physical body / physical reality.

One have to understand that thought and reaction patterns in the Mind is layered – every time in the past one participated in / became possessed by a thought / reaction pattern, one charged and layered it with more and more and more ENERGY. Therefore, practical change in moments – making a decision and living the commitment to change, every time one stabilize in the physical and not participate in the thought / reaction pattern: the thought / reaction pattern’s energy gets discharged over and over and over again. Until eventually – it has no more energy to exist as an ‘active program’ that influence oneself in moments and becomes but just a memory that does not have control / influence over who one is / how one is in moments. So, this is the point one face in moments – where one will either continue charging a thought / reaction or discharge the energy within and as it through applying / living change, until one start naturally living the change within oneself and one do not react / have thoughts about another when in conflict – but are naturally stable and able to direct the moment with commonsense solutions. Therefore, every time one ‘miss a moment of change’ – the thought/reaction pattern becomes ‘recharged’, adding an additional layer of energy / substance of energy and so why/how it feels more difficult to face / change the point in the mind when/as it activated again.

In the next post, we’ll continue with explaining what to do when/as a point is missed – to not go into judgment / blame / being hard oneself and continue explaining why/how such missed points are ‘gifts in disguise’.

The Physical-Motion and E(energy/mind)-Motion of Process: DAY 475

I the other day, explained the following example to an individual that will give perspective of ‘process’ and also give perspective of why/how it is that one ‘sometimes feel stable’ and at other times overwhelmed when it comes to the Mind:

Imagine a HUGE round see-through ball that is rolling down a path, with this path winding and sometimes going up and other times going down with lots of obstacles, such as rocks / fallen trees / holes. Now Imagine in that huge round see-through ball there are LOTS of smaller balls floating in a stable position. These balls you can make all sorts of different colours. Then on the smaller balls, Imagine that you see small doors as though the doors on the small balls can be opened and you go inside of them. Now Imagine that you see all the doors on the small balls facing forward towards the path the huge ball is standing on.

So, the small balls with the doors represent points in the Mind that one has to face, with the huge ball representing your physical body and the path with all the obstacles representing the process we walk in our lifetime with facing ourselves as the mind and also the manifested-consequence we have already created in our lives through the mind. Obviously here to consider that such a “path of our lives” is but an experience – physically, we’re always in this reality physically stable. We create the “experience” of ups and downs and winding roads through the MIND.

Now Imagine that you start seeing the huge ball roll along the path and as the huge ball moves in a forward-motion, at the same time, all the smaller balls moves in a forward-motion; but: all the smaller balls are moving forward in different speeds.

Let’s say, the huge ball rolls into a hole and at the same time as the huge ball rolls into a hole – that very moment, one of the smaller-ball’s doors had rolled in such a way where the door was facing forward towards the path, but is now facing inward. The moment the door on the ball faces inwards – it opens up to reveal, for example, thoughts / emotions / behaviour patterns. What this illustrates is the following: As one is walking one’s process – day-to-day, this is the path one walks. Then, as one walk the day – a moment happens with a person, a conflict for example; which would represent the hole in the path. As the moment of conflict opens up, as the ball rolled into the hole: specific thoughts/reactions/behaviour patterns will come to the fore that “activates” – showing things about self, in the Mind, that has to be faced. This being the same as the moment one of the small ball’s doors opened up the exact moment the ball rolled into the hole.

Now, one of two things can happen in such moments: the moment the point within self opens up as one is confronted with a challenge within one’s world / reality (as when the door of the small ball opens the moment the larger ball rolls into the hole) – one will either face oneself and change OR the point will return in the Mind/Self to be faced at a later stage. However, there is a consequence to the point returning to the Mind/Self to be faced at a later stage: if one ‘miss a point’ – an additional ‘layer’ is added to the point in the Mind and everything that it consists of. An additional layer, meaning: the thoughts / backchats and energy reactions of the Mind pattern will become ever so slightly emphasized so that the next time one face the point again – the experience of the point will be even more difficult in the Mind.

If we look at it from the example of the balls: as the small ball’s door opens up the moment the larger ball rolls into the hole and one do not face the mind-pattern that the smaller ball represents – the door will close and the small ball will increase in size. If one did face the mind pattern (or content of the small ball) – every time one apply oneself to change, when a mind pattern emerge (or a small ball’s door opens up): the small ball will decrease in size as the mind pattern becomes less and less intense / overwhelming. With remaining constant and consistent with one’s practical application and change with facing mind patterns in real-time – the mind pattern will slowly but surely disappear as you are no longer feeding / validating the mind pattern, but standing by and committing to your self change.

We’ll continue more in the next post with how to practically assist and support oneself when missing point in one’s real-time application. Also, how – even though, when missing points, the points to become more intense / overwhelming: it is in fact a ‘gift in disguise’.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Five): DAY 474

Here we come to the FINAL step – the Practical Corrective Living, where one in fact APPLY the change in REALITY consistently, until eventually, the self-change is noticeable within oneself and one’s behaviour – which will be the moment where the green water drop, will change entirely to purple. We’ll continue with this process in the next post.

As explained in the previous post – Writing, Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements opens up the POTENTIAL for actual self and living change, for change to become REAL, constant and consistent within self and self’s living. So, let us have a look at the three dimensions again – this time from seeing what it would mean to apply / live change until the change becomes self within and without:

One have to understand that, changing oneself in relation to a point / dimension within the Mind – will be a process, because one had initially automatically lived-out a particular reaction / self-definition and now one has to move out of the automation and at the same time redefine and change oneself. We will show how this works as we walk through each individual dimension we had walked as examples within the posts thus far.

Dimension 1: Word Definitions

Automated Mind Program:

Initially, the moment the words “handsome / beautiful” would come up in the Mind – many images / projections would come up within the Mind, along with emotional reactions that would lead to comparison and self-judgment.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, every time ANY reference of “handsome / beautiful” comes up within self – self deliberately in the moment, immediately REMIND oneself that one is deciding to not participate in such definitions of “handsome / beautiful”, but that one had decided to focus oneself / one’s life on one’s own personal process and not be distracted by such definitions and reactions to words in the MIND. So, instead of ‘following the Mind’ when images / projections come up the moment one see/ hear the words handsome / beautiful – one in real-time, in the moment speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment want to follow my thoughts / projections and the images that came up within me in relation to the words handsome / beautiful. I commit myself to no longer participate in such distractions in my Mind.” Then you breathe in and out and let the point go within yourself and continue focusing on what you were doing in your world.

So, one continue walking this point – changing SELF IN THE MOMENT, from stopping continuing following the mind / participating in the Mind and bring your focus back to yourself, to breath, to the physical and your immediate environment.

Dimension 2: Comparison

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found how comparison activates within one’s Mind, because when one looked at others in real life and/or in magazines / TV / movies – one focused more on their external appearance and how it compares to one’s own external appearance. So, because one’s Mind was preoccupied with external appearance – this became the focus of what one sees in one’s external world, which leads to the activation of comparison in one’s Mind and so also the emotion of jealousy.

Practical Application Process and Change

Now, as one is walking around a lot of people, reading magazines and/or watching TV / Movie and one find in a moment a comparison comes up in the Mind: one IMMEDIATELY stop within oneself, speak a quick self forgiveness statement for example: “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to access comparison – wanting to compare my external appearance to that of another. I commit myself to stop this comparison, realising that I decide to not preoccupy myself with external appearances and comparison”. Then, one change oneself in the moment and instead of comparing external appearances – rather see what you can LEARN from another by observing them. Meaning, change how one see others from comparing oneself to them – to seeing who they are as individuals: how they dress / walk and express themselves through words / behaviour. Realising that the person you’re looking at / observing is an INDIVIDUAL that is expressing themselves through words / behaviour / dress. The moment we start comparing – we stop realising that human beings are individuals and instead start seeing them as ‘competition’, instead start using them in our minds to fuel our own issues / problems with comparison and jealousy. So, this is an practical application to consider when working with comparison – to in the moment stop the comparison in the Mind and look / observe the individual for who they are.

Dimension 3: Self Judgement

Automated Mind Program:

Here one found that the moment comparison activates, self-judgment also comes up in the Mind – where one starts bullying oneself in one’s own Mind with the focus of the self-judgment primarily directed to/towards external appearances.

Practical Application Process and Change

So, every time a self-judgment comes up – before you take it any further in the mind and continue participating in it and generating judgmental emotions / experiences: one speak a self forgiveness statement, for example “I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this moment judge myself. I commit myself to stop this self-judgment as I have decided to stop bullying myself in my own mind and instead work on supporting myself – rather than attacking myself.” Then one breathe in and breathe out – stabilizing oneself in the body, for a moment just being there with you and the body, no mind interference: to start assisting and supporting yourself and the body to develop an equal relationship, where you assist and support the body as the body assists and supports you to live/exist within this world / reality. So, in the moment you stop the self-judgment and stabilize yourself within and with the body – it’s like in this moment you remind yourself to be gentle with yourself, with the body and not attack / bully yourself and the body with the Mind.

Here are some examples of practical application and self change in the moment. Obviously, there are many different ways to approach a point in the Mind with using the tools of forgiveness, commitments and breath in real-time – but what I wanted to show here is how one change IN THE MOMENT.

So, with each practical application process – where one CHANGE IN THE MOMENT, one will find with remaining consistent in one’s application, the thoughts / reactions will start becoming less and less intense. Until eventually, the thoughts / reactions will come up ever so slightly and will be really easy to simply breathe and stabilize oneself within. This is because, if one would have continued participating in the mind in the dimensions of the words, comparisons and self-judgment – it keeps on generating the necessary energy / emotions for the Mind to keep such programs / dimensions / reactions in the Mind “alive”. So, if you start stopping participation and not follow the mind, but instead change and stabilize yourself – the mind’s points has less and less energy / fuel to charge the programs / reactions, because you are stabilizing YOURSELF in the PHYSICAL, instead of charging up the Mind.

We’ll in posts to come explain this change from Mind participation to Physical stability, specifically focusing on why it is not enough to simply just ‘stop thoughts / emotions’ and just breathe / stabilize oneself – but one has to have SPECIFIC self-change applications in relation to the mind’s programs / reactions.

Once upon a time, there was a Thought, Awareness and a Water Drop…(Part Four): DAY 473

In the next post we’ll continue with the Self Judgment Dimension and then the Final Point of what it means to take the writing and self forgiveness / commitment process into actual real change for the green water drop as the backchat and emotion to change into actual Self Aware Living.

Dimension 3: Self Judgment

Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements

(To walk the Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements – one reference the introspective / investigative writing one initially do when one open up backchats / emotions, which is what we did in the previous post. Here are but a few examples of Self Forgiveness and Commitment Statements :)

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand the extent to which I compromised ME within my OWN MIND with accepting and allowing comparison as it spiralled out of control to the point where I was in fact busy comparing myself to not only photos in my Mind where it initially started – but to now where my eyes start wandering to other human beings. In this, I would start comparing my appearance / physique to them and even go to the point of judging myself – with the judgment only perpetuating the idea/belief/perception that I do not meet the ‘standards’ of the definition of the word beautiful / handsome.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand what I am in fact doing to MYSELF in my OWN MIND with accepting and allowing self-judgment as I turned me against myself – my own worst enemy, with initially buying into the definitions of handsome / beautiful, then judging me as not meeting such standards and in that self-judgment – making this the PRIMARY relationship to myself in my Mind and my Relationship to others: as me being less than / inferior to others who apparently meet the standards of what beautiful / handsome is.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand how I have through Self-Judgment – accepted and allowed an attacking relationship towards myself, my own body: instead of an assisting and supporting relationship towards myself and my body. Where, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in self-judgment, abuse myself and my body because of accepting and allowing myself to define me and my body by other’s standards and definitions – instead of me standing by my own integrity, respect, consideration and regard of me and my body.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that – as long as I accept and allow the starting point of handsome / beautiful definitions as per the world’s standards: I will always enslave myself to the world, to such superficial and limited definitions and in that self-enslavement – only compromise me and my body.

I commit myself to assist and support myself to when and as I in a moment find that I start comparing in my Mind and that comparison leads to self-judgment: I stop, I breathe and speak a quick self forgiveness statement silently within myself such as “I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to in this moment access comparison to/towards that someone and from the comparison judge myself for this/that” (Obviously, here – to consider the self-forgiveness statement must be as specific and contextual to the moment as possible). Then, to speak a commitment statement silently within myself such as “I commit myself to be here with me and only me in/as breath and focus one where I am and what I am doing”. By doing this – I that moment shift myself out of the tendency to compare and judge in the Mind, and bring myself back to me, to reality to HERE.

I commit myself to change the relationship to myself from attacking / belittling myself through self-judgments in my own Mind – to assisting and supporting me with self forgiveness and commitment statements and an immediate decision of change in a moment.

I commit myself to see, realise and understand who I am and how I experience myself is in my own hands. I no more accept / allow myself to sabotage and compromise myself with comparison and self judgment, but instead assist and support myself to strengthen, expand and grow within who I am and in this lifetime so that I can create a me and a life worth living, rather than one where I slowly but surely lose myself and destroy myself through comparison and judgment.

Alright, here one now have examples of the Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Commitment process. (I suggest, for those that are new to this process – to join the Desteni I Process LITE that introduce you step by step, together with the help of a buddy, how to Write, Apply Self Forgiveness and stand within Self Commitment Statements.)

However, this process of Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Commitment Statements only ever so slightly starts changing the green water drop (with the backchat, emotion and ALL other dimensions that was part of it) into and as purple, as our Awareness has now permeated into/as the green water drop, has now permeated into seeing all the dimensions and the POTENTIAL for self-change. So, with the Writing, Forgiveness and Commitment Process – one in fact create the POTENTIAL for change, for the green water drop to COMPLETELY change into and as purple, as the process where we, ourselves, in fact change completely from the backchat/emotions and all dimensions involved.

Here we come to the FINAL step – the Practical Corrective Living, where one in fact APPLY the change in REALITY consistently, until eventually, the self-change is noticeable within oneself and one’s behaviour – which will be the moment where the green water drop, will change entirely to purple. We’ll continue with this process in the next post.