Out of Control 

Taming the Wild Nature of the Mind (continued)

We’ll continue more in the next post with specifically having a look at the ‘wild nature of the mind’ as it now exists because we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts/emotions, for example and so why/how we’re not in control of our own Minds and our own life/living experiences/decisions. In this, we’re going to see how we can assist / support ourselves to rebuild ourselves, recreate ourselves within and without.

Let’s have a look at the definition ‘the Wild Nature of the Mind’ and why the Mind itself is ‘Wild’ with regards to our current relationship towards it:

In the above paragraph I stated that we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts and emotions, which means that we’re not in control of our own Minds. If we’re not in control of our own Minds – then we’re not in control of our life/living and what we use to guide us through our lives, which is: Decisions.

Let’s break this down more specifically:

“we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts and emotions” – What does this mean?

If you have a look at moments during your day – you can observe how sometimes, random thoughts will come up within you that are no way contextual to your immediate surroundings. An example is: you’re discussing plans with an individual, because you’re part of a committee that is planning a big event. All of a sudden – you start thinking about the individual sexually, imagining you in relationship with them, start thinking about what they look like / what they’re wearing. All of this is happening in your Mind while your immediate surroundings in reality is about planning and discussing an event. Additionally within this, your relationship with this individual in relation to how the two of you interact is purely platonic and there has been no discussion / communication or even indication of engaging in a relationship with them.

Then, with the thoughts – comes feelings/emotions that activates. Again, the thoughts and emotions in the mind just ‘came up out of nowhere’ – suddenly/unexpectedly. So, the context here that I am looking at that you can also practically assess for yourself is: while you’re doing something in REALITY or interacting with another individual and in such moments your Mind starts becoming busy with all sorts of different things that are in NO WAY related to the immediate moment in reality - this comes to show how we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts and emotions, because they are just accepted and allowed to run amok in our Minds and take us into all sorts of different directions/alternate realities and separate us from what’s real, what’s here in every moment of Breath.

This opens up another point: it’s interesting when looking at the relationship to such thoughts and emotions that we tend to then “believe them / have faith in them” IMMEDIATELY because they “seemingly came out of nowhere” – where this “blind trust” is placed on the thoughts and emotions that come up in such a way. When it should actually be the opposite: because they come up out of nowhere, because they come up in moments where such thoughts and emotions are in fact completely irrelevant – we should be QUESTIONING them, investigating what triggered / activated such thoughts and emotions in the Mind; asking the question(s): “Why was I not here, grounded and stable in my participation with reality / the person(s) I was interacting with and keeping everything contextual? Why and how did I wander off into mind-dimensions that had no context to reality?” But, instead of doing this – we exist in reverse: we then tend to BELIEVE the Mind’s thoughts and emotions MORE and create an absolute Illusion about the relationship to reality / another person and more often than not – reality PROVES that whatever the thoughts and emotions showed was not real. Sometimes, even despite reality PROVING that the thoughts / emotions aren’t real – the individual is so possessed within the belief/faith/trust of the thoughts and emotions that they are still pursued.

However, the focus point of this post is for self to practically apply this for oneself: keep one’s awareness focused on finding such moments within your day where random thoughts and emotions will come up that are completely out of context to reality / the moment of participation with something/someone. In this, one will thus see for oneself how the thoughts will come and the emotions will activate and one will simply immediately follow them / fall into them – BELIEVE that they are SO REAL and in that: forget about what it is real RIGHT HERE – the physical moment and its REAL CONTEXT.

So, with thoughts and emotions in such a context separating us from reality, a REAL MOMENT - is an example of how and why we’re not even in directive principle of our own thoughts/emotions – more importantly because we don’t understand or even know where they in fact come from in the first place. So, this is an important point to consider in this post: that it is because one do not understand why they come up/exist/where they come from – that they should be questioned/investigated and not the other way around where – because they come up automatically, they’re immediately trusted/believed and regarded MORE than what’s real/here.

We’ll continue more in the next post

Taming the Wild Nature of the Mind (Part Two): DAY 468

So, what Cerise needed to build the relationship with her Horse was: Knowledge and Information, Technique and Tools to establish a communication with her Horse – a language that both equally understand to come-together in equality within and as their relationship.

This same process goes for the Mind: we first have to understand the mind, get to know it (the Knowledge and Information), then have the Tools with which to work with it and the Technique to place the Knowledge and Information with the Tools into practical living change with regards to who we are within and as the Mind.

Now, if Cerise had the knowledge, information, technique and tools only within herself – and didn’t take the initial first step of starting the process: the relationship with her horse would not have developed in any way whatsoever. With horses, one often do an initial ‘relationship assessment’ – to see how the horse responds to you, what is their nature etc. – one essentially see/assess who/how one is, who/how the horse is and who/how you are together. From here one start with the basics of establishing a relationship, stabilizing the relationship and practise in the basics before one get to the more complex forms of communication/interaction in the relationship.

This is the same with our relationship to the Mind: if we only hold the knowledge, information, technique and tools within ourselves in relationship to the Mind, but still accept/allow ourselves in the Mind to ‘run wild’ – no change will ever manifest within who we are / in the Mind and so also not in our life/living experience/application. Therefore, in process – one always start with the basics to analyse/assess your relationship to thoughts, emotions/feelings, backchat, imagination. To be able to ‘see yourself for who/how/what you are’ – you need to self-honestly know how quickly you tend to follow thoughts, what particular thoughts you tend to follow more easily than others, how/why/when/where you give into emotions/feelings and what particular emotions/feelings you tend to give into more easily than others. The same then goes for imaginations / backchats. One need to have a ‘map’ of who you are in/as the Mind to from there start with the basics to be able to establish a relationship with yourself, the Mind and your life/living experience/application. From here, the process starts with applying the knowledge, information, technique and tools step by step, day by day – working with and changing what you’re able to at this stage based on your current, self honest, relationship to yourself and the Mind and your life/living experience/application.

See, again – if Cerise had an idea in her mind in relation to the relationship with the Horse that she WANTS and she held onto that projection and had tried to throw herself into the ‘deep-end’, so to speak, already starting with complex forms of techniques / tools without having made an realistic assessment of who she is/who the horse is and what their relationship are in the current moment of interaction: she would have created what we all so often face – the Illusion of ‘Failure’. When, all the while – it has nothing to do with failure, but everything to do with not walking the Process, not Preparing and not taking it step by step – but trying to manifest the Mind’s Projection of the Future, onto the now / here / present of physical reality and so not remembering what it would in fact take to create a relationship in/as Physical Reality.

We often do the same in our Internal Process with the Mind – we already ‘project’ who / how it is we’re going to be from the get-go and then we try and immediately manifest that Mind Projection into Physical Reality and so not remember that the Physical moves with space and time, with breaths, with sequences of events and that – to Create in the Physical – takes time, patience, commitment and dedication. Starting with the basics and establishing a foundation to BUILD on that foundation as we continue walking and changing and so, in this process, one can stop the Illusion of Failure – through remembering the PHYSICAL PROCESS that has to be walked to change one’s relationship to self, the mind and so who/how one is in one’s life/living experience.

We’ll continue more in the next post with specifically having a look at the ‘wild nature of the mind’ as it now exists because we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts/emotions, for example and so why/how we’re not in control of our own Minds and our own life/living experiences/decisions. In this, we’re going to see how we can assist / support ourselves to rebuild ourselves, recreate ourselves within and without.

Taming the Wild Nature of the Mind: DAY 467

We were in the process of preparing the horses’ stables on a very hot day. Grootman (Fidelis’s horse) was sprayed down with the hosepipe to help him cool-off and we had put him in his stable – when the next horse up for a spray-down was Fat (Cerise’s horse). Fat was on the other side of the stables and Cerise was calling him – and it was this moment, Cerise calling her horse and the way he responded – where I had seen years of working on a relationship with her horse, with dedication, patience and perseverance: come together.

She was calling for his attention with her voice – she has a very specific tonality that she uses with him and she always keeps to that very specific pitch when she’s calling him. This tonality / voice pitch she has been using consistently throughout the years. So, the moment she uses that specific tonality – she first gets his attention and he stops in is tracks and he looks at her. Once she got his attention – his eyes fixed on her, she uses her index finger with a ‘come to me’ motion, pulling her index-finger towards her very fast as to indicate to him to come to her. He was initially resistant, because he was waiting for her at his stable – ready to go in, with the luscious and delicious Lucerne and Oat Hay waiting for him in his stable: for the horses – the Lucerne and Oat Hay are a real treat. But, Cerise first wanted to hose him down to help is body cool off after a hot day – reaching 35 Degrees Celsius and still, by 16:30 in the afternoon – the temperature was close to unbearable. It was interesting to observe how Fat was backing off a bit and moving closer to his stable; for a moment in an inner-conflict, because he WANTS to go to the stable to have his ‘treats’ – but, at the same time he knows he has to go to Cerise. So, Cerise would call him and he would move closer, but back down a bit and then move closer, but back down – like the two of them communicating, where Fat would say to her “No! I want to go to my treats” and Cerise would say to him “Come here, we’re spraying you down first”. So, eventually – she walked closer to him, becoming more stern in her voice and motion with the finger, this time also using her body – getting his attention, using the finger-motion  and then walking backwards – leading him towards her and the hosepipe. When she did this – became more earnest in her request for him to come to her, he followed her – standing on one spot where she instructed him to stand and he waited patiently while she was hosing him down and then afterwards lead him to his stable.

To develop such a relationship with a horse – where communication is through sound and physical movements is no easy feat. Anyone that has worked with horses knows that to establish such a relationship between human and horse is quite a process; where both have to equally align into/as a ‘language’ each-other understands. This process for Cerise has taken about 6 years, using various techniques – primarily Parelli – where, when Fat looks at her and she looks at him: you can actually see the connection between them, it’s awesome.

I have walked with Cerise for quite some time – and she would always be out riding Fat, working with him, with such persistence and dedication, it was fascinating to see in that one moment of interaction between the two of them: how years came together to establish such a communication/relationship between the two of them. The point that opened up within this is: we often do not see immediately, how our dedication / commitment to something/someone will unfold throughout days / months / years until you look back. Even with having a look at the process we’re walking with Desteni through the Mind – the moment-to-moment dedication and commitment that create a relationship with self and self’s living that will be seen as one look back to how/who one was before in the Mind / Process and how one had changed through applying/living the tools in the months/years one incorporated it into oneself / one’s living.

This is what I will be continuing with in posts to come – utilizing this relationship between Cerise and her Horse and how specifically this relates to our relationship with ourselves and our process, even with regards to our relationship to others and eventually this World / Reality. This specifically when it comes to time and patience, and also in relation to the ‘wild nature’ of the Mind – with thoughts and emotions that go undirected / unquestioned because we’re not taking directive principled responsibility in our Minds and the consequence this creates within ourselves and our lives.