Taming the Wild Nature of the Mind (Part Two): DAY 468

So, what Cerise needed to build the relationship with her Horse was: Knowledge and Information, Technique and Tools to establish a communication with her Horse – a language that both equally understand to come-together in equality within and as their relationship.

This same process goes for the Mind: we first have to understand the mind, get to know it (the Knowledge and Information), then have the Tools with which to work with it and the Technique to place the Knowledge and Information with the Tools into practical living change with regards to who we are within and as the Mind.

Now, if Cerise had the knowledge, information, technique and tools only within herself – and didn’t take the initial first step of starting the process: the relationship with her horse would not have developed in any way whatsoever. With horses, one often do an initial ‘relationship assessment’ – to see how the horse responds to you, what is their nature etc. – one essentially see/assess who/how one is, who/how the horse is and who/how you are together. From here one start with the basics of establishing a relationship, stabilizing the relationship and practise in the basics before one get to the more complex forms of communication/interaction in the relationship.

This is the same with our relationship to the Mind: if we only hold the knowledge, information, technique and tools within ourselves in relationship to the Mind, but still accept/allow ourselves in the Mind to ‘run wild’ – no change will ever manifest within who we are / in the Mind and so also not in our life/living experience/application. Therefore, in process – one always start with the basics to analyse/assess your relationship to thoughts, emotions/feelings, backchat, imagination. To be able to ‘see yourself for who/how/what you are’ – you need to self-honestly know how quickly you tend to follow thoughts, what particular thoughts you tend to follow more easily than others, how/why/when/where you give into emotions/feelings and what particular emotions/feelings you tend to give into more easily than others. The same then goes for imaginations / backchats. One need to have a ‘map’ of who you are in/as the Mind to from there start with the basics to be able to establish a relationship with yourself, the Mind and your life/living experience/application. From here, the process starts with applying the knowledge, information, technique and tools step by step, day by day – working with and changing what you’re able to at this stage based on your current, self honest, relationship to yourself and the Mind and your life/living experience/application.

See, again – if Cerise had an idea in her mind in relation to the relationship with the Horse that she WANTS and she held onto that projection and had tried to throw herself into the ‘deep-end’, so to speak, already starting with complex forms of techniques / tools without having made an realistic assessment of who she is/who the horse is and what their relationship are in the current moment of interaction: she would have created what we all so often face – the Illusion of ‘Failure’. When, all the while – it has nothing to do with failure, but everything to do with not walking the Process, not Preparing and not taking it step by step – but trying to manifest the Mind’s Projection of the Future, onto the now / here / present of physical reality and so not remembering what it would in fact take to create a relationship in/as Physical Reality.

We often do the same in our Internal Process with the Mind – we already ‘project’ who / how it is we’re going to be from the get-go and then we try and immediately manifest that Mind Projection into Physical Reality and so not remember that the Physical moves with space and time, with breaths, with sequences of events and that – to Create in the Physical – takes time, patience, commitment and dedication. Starting with the basics and establishing a foundation to BUILD on that foundation as we continue walking and changing and so, in this process, one can stop the Illusion of Failure – through remembering the PHYSICAL PROCESS that has to be walked to change one’s relationship to self, the mind and so who/how one is in one’s life/living experience.

We’ll continue more in the next post with specifically having a look at the ‘wild nature of the mind’ as it now exists because we’re not the directive principle of our own thoughts/emotions, for example and so why/how we’re not in control of our own Minds and our own life/living experiences/decisions. In this, we’re going to see how we can assist / support ourselves to rebuild ourselves, recreate ourselves within and without.

Taming the Wild Nature of the Mind: DAY 467

We were in the process of preparing the horses’ stables on a very hot day. Grootman (Fidelis’s horse) was sprayed down with the hosepipe to help him cool-off and we had put him in his stable – when the next horse up for a spray-down was Fat (Cerise’s horse). Fat was on the other side of the stables and Cerise was calling him – and it was this moment, Cerise calling her horse and the way he responded – where I had seen years of working on a relationship with her horse, with dedication, patience and perseverance: come together.

She was calling for his attention with her voice – she has a very specific tonality that she uses with him and she always keeps to that very specific pitch when she’s calling him. This tonality / voice pitch she has been using consistently throughout the years. So, the moment she uses that specific tonality – she first gets his attention and he stops in is tracks and he looks at her. Once she got his attention – his eyes fixed on her, she uses her index finger with a ‘come to me’ motion, pulling her index-finger towards her very fast as to indicate to him to come to her. He was initially resistant, because he was waiting for her at his stable – ready to go in, with the luscious and delicious Lucerne and Oat Hay waiting for him in his stable: for the horses – the Lucerne and Oat Hay are a real treat. But, Cerise first wanted to hose him down to help is body cool off after a hot day – reaching 35 Degrees Celsius and still, by 16:30 in the afternoon – the temperature was close to unbearable. It was interesting to observe how Fat was backing off a bit and moving closer to his stable; for a moment in an inner-conflict, because he WANTS to go to the stable to have his ‘treats’ – but, at the same time he knows he has to go to Cerise. So, Cerise would call him and he would move closer, but back down a bit and then move closer, but back down – like the two of them communicating, where Fat would say to her “No! I want to go to my treats” and Cerise would say to him “Come here, we’re spraying you down first”. So, eventually – she walked closer to him, becoming more stern in her voice and motion with the finger, this time also using her body – getting his attention, using the finger-motion  and then walking backwards – leading him towards her and the hosepipe. When she did this – became more earnest in her request for him to come to her, he followed her – standing on one spot where she instructed him to stand and he waited patiently while she was hosing him down and then afterwards lead him to his stable.

To develop such a relationship with a horse – where communication is through sound and physical movements is no easy feat. Anyone that has worked with horses knows that to establish such a relationship between human and horse is quite a process; where both have to equally align into/as a ‘language’ each-other understands. This process for Cerise has taken about 6 years, using various techniques – primarily Parelli – where, when Fat looks at her and she looks at him: you can actually see the connection between them, it’s awesome.

I have walked with Cerise for quite some time – and she would always be out riding Fat, working with him, with such persistence and dedication, it was fascinating to see in that one moment of interaction between the two of them: how years came together to establish such a communication/relationship between the two of them. The point that opened up within this is: we often do not see immediately, how our dedication / commitment to something/someone will unfold throughout days / months / years until you look back. Even with having a look at the process we’re walking with Desteni through the Mind – the moment-to-moment dedication and commitment that create a relationship with self and self’s living that will be seen as one look back to how/who one was before in the Mind / Process and how one had changed through applying/living the tools in the months/years one incorporated it into oneself / one’s living.

This is what I will be continuing with in posts to come – utilizing this relationship between Cerise and her Horse and how specifically this relates to our relationship with ourselves and our process, even with regards to our relationship to others and eventually this World / Reality. This specifically when it comes to time and patience, and also in relation to the ‘wild nature’ of the Mind – with thoughts and emotions that go undirected / unquestioned because we’re not taking directive principled responsibility in our Minds and the consequence this creates within ourselves and our lives.

Words define and create us – that’s Why words are more Powerful than us: DAY 361 

We have abdicated our power and responsibility of creation to Words. Words define us in that – we connect ‘who we are’ to the definition of words and so become/live it, and the moment we become/live the definition of words – we become the creation of words. Thus, words define and so create us. In this, words have more power than our own awareness – because we do not even consider changing the meaning/definition of words to serve our relationship to ourselves and our living. We sentence ourselves by the very sentences we speak in our relationship to enslaving/chaining who we are as our definition and what we are as our living/creation to/as words. For example: we speak sentences / words in our Minds such as “I’m a failure” / “I’m not good enough” / “I’ll never make it” / “It’s too late to change” / “I don’t care” – not realising that the words we speak, reflect our definition and creation that comes from words themselves and who/how/what we are AS them. Thus, ALL that we’ll be, experience, speak and live is the DEFINITION and the creation of that definition of/as Words – and so LIMITING ourselves in what we are in thought, word and deed through accepting and allowing words to DEFINE and CREATE us, instead of us deciding, in fact, who we are in our Living/Expressing in every moment of Breath.

So, therefore –if we are the spoken and the living word in our definition and creation of words: to Change, would mean “to change WHO I AM as the words that define and creates me in thought word and deed”.

Investigate Desteni and the Desteni I Process – where we walk the process of taking back our power and responsibility of creation, to be and become the definition and creation of Words that stands in the principle of equality and oneness as What’s Best for All to change ourselves, for the betterment of ourselves and so for All.

You Decide – are you going to accept and allow words to have power/control over you? Or are you going to make the decision to be/become the directive principle of who you are in/as words and their Living?