Eternal Darkness (Part 3): DAY 465
Another point opened up that’ll show why and how we’re in
fact self-responsible for the reactions we create in our Minds:
Here I am referring to the example I used in the previous
post regarding our tendency to blame others for our own reactions,
such as anger – where we’d think to someone / say to someone “YOU made me angry”.
Now, in ‘real-time’ (real-time, meaning while we’re having an argument /disagreement
with someone) – it’s ‘easier’ to say “YOU made me angry” / “it’s YOUR fault I’m
in this/that mood”, because the person is right in front of us and our focus is
on the person / the conversation; little attention is paid to what we’re in
fact doing in our Minds that is actually creating the reaction of anger / the
mood we’re experiencing.
However - when we’re alone
with ourselves, our own Minds, in the evening before going to sleep – we’d
often think about the day / recall memories. In the process of thinking about
and recalling memories of events/interactions with other people and there was
an instance where we had an emotional reaction towards another: we’d still
continue blaming the other! But, isn’t this quite strange? Because, we’re
alone, with ourselves – in our own Mind and Body, the person is not in our
immediate environment – is nowhere to be found and yet when referencing the
memory of the event/conversation with the person: we still access the reaction
/ the anger for example. So now explain to me – lol: how on earth can the
person be ‘making you angry’ still if they’re not there??? The anger is still
experienced when referencing the memory, so now: who creates the anger? Where
is the anger coming from? If one is still able to experience the reaction of
anger within oneself when you’re alone – despite the person not being in your environment,
not saying anything / doing anything: this then comes to show that we ourselves
create / activate the emotions, such as anger for example – that we experience
in the Mind and Body. Because, when you’re around the person or when you’re alone with yourself
– one thing remains constant: that is the emotional reaction, such as anger in
this example, that one is experiencing within oneself. If/as the emotional
reaction, such as anger – COMPLETELY went away when you were not physically
around the person, even when looking at the Memory of the event and there is NO
REACTION or movement or change within oneself AT ALL: then, yes – we could say
that the person was the cause. But, each one self-honestly can assess for
themselves, that: when they had a reaction towards another in ‘real time’ and
they’d think about / remember the memory of the interaction/conversation/event:
the reaction / experience remains.
So, many here can have a look at the example and say that
one is accessing the MEMORY of what happened and in the MEMORY is existent the
reaction that the other person created within oneself – so the memory is
containing the reaction, one is not making oneself angry…Really? Now, this time
– what is blamed for the reaction is the MEMORY…it’s
interesting how far we’d go to abdicate responsibility, to understand how we ourselves
create reactions in our own Minds / Bodies.
So, if the reaction was then contained in the memory – then,
the reaction should be localized to the memory only. Meaning: we look at
memories in the head / brain region – so, if the memory of the event came up
and the emotion was caught-up in the Memory, then we should only be
experiencing/feeling the anger
in the head/brain region where the memory is being looked-at. But, when
accessing Memories – especially ones where we reacted, in for example anger:
our whole body responds and we can feel the energy moving in the solar-plexus
area. Here, we are in fact – in our bodies, through the mind and memory: recreating
the emotional reaction of/as anger for example.
What I’d like to show in this example is why/how it is so
effective to utilize the moment before going to sleep to assist/support oneself
within one’s process by reflecting on the day / looking at memories. Here, one
can self honestly assess one’s responsibility within creating emotional /
feeling reactions and accordingly take
responsibility for one’s own thoughts
and reactions. In the next post – I’ll continue with explaining how exactly we
create, for example anger, in the ‘real time’ moment we’re interacting with the
person/event and also when we’re referencing a memory. Within this - also show
you how you can change the reactions, where you can decide not to react, which
is also proof that we ourselves create the reactions we experience, because: if
we can stop and change reactions – it means we started them in the first place.
No one else can stop reactions within your Mind: only self can.
