Eternal Darkness (Part 3): DAY 465

Eternal Darkness (Part 3): DAY 465

  

Another point opened up that’ll show why and how we’re in fact self-responsible for the reactions we create in our Minds:

Here I am referring to the example I used in the previous post regarding our tendency to blame others for our own reactions, such as anger – where we’d think to someone / say to someone “YOU made me angry”. Now, in ‘real-time’ (real-time, meaning while we’re having an argument /disagreement with someone) – it’s ‘easier’ to say “YOU made me angry” / “it’s YOUR fault I’m in this/that mood”, because the person is right in front of us and our focus is on the person / the conversation; little attention is paid to what we’re in fact doing in our Minds that is actually creating the reaction of anger / the mood we’re experiencing.

However - when we’re alone with ourselves, our own Minds, in the evening before going to sleep – we’d often think about the day / recall memories. In the process of thinking about and recalling memories of events/interactions with other people and there was an instance where we had an emotional reaction towards another: we’d still continue blaming the other! But, isn’t this quite strange? Because, we’re alone, with ourselves – in our own Mind and Body, the person is not in our immediate environment – is nowhere to be found and yet when referencing the memory of the event/conversation with the person: we still access the reaction / the anger for example. So now explain to me – lol: how on earth can the person be ‘making you angry’ still if they’re not there??? The anger is still experienced when referencing the memory, so now: who creates the anger? Where is the anger coming from? If one is still able to experience the reaction of anger within oneself when you’re alone – despite the person not being in your environment, not saying anything / doing anything: this then comes to show that we ourselves create / activate the emotions, such as anger for example – that we experience in the Mind and Body. Because, when you’re around the person or when you’re alone with yourself – one thing remains constant: that is the emotional reaction, such as anger in this example, that one is experiencing within oneself. If/as the emotional reaction, such as anger – COMPLETELY went away when you were not physically around the person, even when looking at the Memory of the event and there is NO REACTION or movement or change within oneself AT ALL: then, yes – we could say that the person was the cause. But, each one self-honestly can assess for themselves, that: when they had a reaction towards another in ‘real time’ and they’d think about / remember the memory of the interaction/conversation/event: the reaction / experience remains.

So, many here can have a look at the example and say that one is accessing the MEMORY of what happened and in the MEMORY is existent the reaction that the other person created within oneself – so the memory is containing the reaction, one is not making oneself angry…Really? Now, this time – what is blamed for the reaction is the MEMORY…it’s interesting how far we’d go to abdicate responsibility, to understand how we ourselves create reactions in our own Minds / Bodies.

So, if the reaction was then contained in the memory – then, the reaction should be localized to the memory only. Meaning: we look at memories in the head / brain region – so, if the memory of the event came up and the emotion was caught-up in the Memory, then we should only be experiencing/feeling the anger in the head/brain region where the memory is being looked-at. But, when accessing Memories – especially ones where we reacted, in for example anger: our whole body responds and we can feel the energy moving in the solar-plexus area. Here, we are in fact – in our bodies, through the mind and memory: recreating the emotional reaction of/as anger for example.

What I’d like to show in this example is why/how it is so effective to utilize the moment before going to sleep to assist/support oneself within one’s process by reflecting on the day / looking at memories. Here, one can self honestly assess one’s responsibility within creating emotional / feeling reactions and accordingly take responsibility for one’s own thoughts and reactions. In the next post – I’ll continue with explaining how exactly we create, for example anger, in the ‘real time’ moment we’re interacting with the person/event and also when we’re referencing a memory. Within this - also show you how you can change the reactions, where you can decide not to react, which is also proof that we ourselves create the reactions we experience, because: if we can stop and change reactions – it means we started them in the first place. No one else can stop reactions within your Mind: only self can.